Don’t Just Stare At a Girl, Approach Her #Kukachora

I’ve noticed a rather peculiar trend in Nairobi. Guys just like staring at women and salivating over them without taking any action. A few years ago, I was also struggling with approaching girls and getting their numbers. I remember some fine mamiis who I wish I could have had the courage to approach, but I was clueless on how to do it.

Then were times too when I tried to hem and haw my way into a chat with a girl, desperately wanting to get her digits, but I still had no idea how to make it happen. Tragic indeed. But why was I struggling so hard like Torres in front of goal ? I mean, what was preventing me from just blurting out the phrase, “Hey, can I have your number?”

I hadn’t planned my approach in advance. And when you don’t plan yourself, bad things keep happening. I like quoting rappers so allow me to quote Rick Ross, In the song ‘John’ he says: “If you get in trouble that just means you are messingup”. When you plan yourself, you rarely mess up, hence you never get in trouble

So there I was – a coward, afraid of spitting the wrong lines to girls. I was afraid of being ridiculed, snubbed and rejected.

Time and time again, I found myself in scenarios where I saw chics I wanted to date or shag but had no clue how to get them. But then I realized that it was just fear and I could solve it. I started studying the “naturals” — the guys who succeed with women effortlessly

I laid out a plan…

I began emulating all that they did, like an infant learning to walk. I started approaching and I learned. Out of many times that I approached girls, I never once had one respond by getting angry, saying something unpleasant or acting offended. The first it ever came to was the girl walking away. Most of the other times , I succeeded. I stopped staring at women like they were spaceships and I began pursuing them. .

Let’s all be true to ourselves guys. If you want a girl, don’t just stare and mumble things to your friend. That’s not planning your approach. Women hate that. Kitu Ni kukachora. Jipange na uchukue number.

Bottom line: Your fear of rejection and willful approach is a waste of time. it’s preventing you from being successful with women for no reason at all. Don’t just stare – approach. Kachore jo and chase the girl of your heart’s wants.

The Kitu Ni Kukachora campaign by Population Services Kenya aims at encouraging young people to make better decisions with their lives