Sometimes, we allow ourselves to get carried away and begin to think the we own our partners. Hey, even puppies don’t like to be called pets. You can’t own anyone. The fact that you’re gong out or married doesn’t make you their owner.<\/p>\n
Sometimes, we get so jealous and allow it to turn us into possessive monsters over our partners. This is however, neither good for you nor you partner. Trust me, no one likes to stay in a prison not matter how beautiful the place may look.<\/p>\n
Being possessive over your partner is like you imprisoning them, and even yourself and can only damage the relationship.<\/p>\n
There are many reasons why people might feel possessive, including having trust issues, being jealous, or having low self-esteem. Here are some tips to keep things in perspective if you feel yourself or your partner spiraling into a possessive state.<\/p>\n
Maybe you\u2019ve been cheated on or lied to before, but this is a new relationship. Don\u2019t let the past ruin what you have going for you now. Your partner is a different person than your ex, and deserves a fresh start. Not to mention,\u00a0you\u2019ll<\/em> feel better if you let the past go! You can\u2019t change anything that\u2019s already happened, so release the past hurt and focus on the relationship you\u2019re in now.<\/p>\n The more you worry your partner doesn\u2019t love you or isn\u2019t being honest with you, the more you will push him or her away. No one wants to be with a needy person, so don\u2019t pile all your fears and worries about love on your partner. Trust that they love you because they\u2019re choosing to be in a relationship with you. Let them go out without you, and don\u2019t give them the third degree when they come home. If you make your partner feel like they\u2019ve done something bad even when they haven\u2019t, they might wonder what it\u2019s worth to be good.<\/p>\n This goes hand in hand with not being overbearing. If you have your own job, your own hobbies, and your own social life, then you\u2019ll be a more interesting person to your partner. It\u2019s important to spend time together, of course, but it\u2019s also fun to spend time apart and have different things to share and talk about when you\u2019re together.<\/p>\n Jealousy is not only a fast relationship killer, but it will make you feel bitter and hateful in your daily life. That green-eyed monster is quick to cut you down and make you feel worthless. Turn that attitude into something positive by realizing that your partner is with you because you\u2019re a great, quality person all on your own. You don\u2019t need to be jealous about anyone else they may be spending time with. Make sure you know your self-worth and realize that your partner is lucky to be with you.<\/p>\n A great way to keep from being jealous is to be familiar with each other\u2019s social circles. If you know who your partner is spending time with, you\u2019ll know there\u2019s no reason to worry. An added bonus is that you might like their friends and want to spend time with them as well.<\/p>\n You knew who your partner was when you got involved in the relationship\u2014why do you want to change him or her now? Telling yourself that the other<\/em> person needs to change could just be your easy answer to any problem you might be having in the relationship.<\/p>\n Why do you feel possessive in your relationship? Whether it\u2019s a fear from a past relationship, or even something that happened in childhood, you need to figure out what is causing you to feel and act this way. It will help you come to terms with your issue and conquer it, which in turn will make you feel better and will help future relationships.<\/p>\n Often people feel insecure about others because they\u2019re projecting something they see in themselves. You might worry that your partner flirts when he or she goes out with friends because\u00a0you<\/em> flirt when you go out with friends. If you trust yourself to only flirt and not go beyond that, you should be able to trust your partner to do the same\u2014it\u2019s only fair!<\/p>\n It\u2019s OK to admit\u2014everyone\u2019s done it! Checking emails of an account that\u2019s been left open, scrolling through sent text messages, perusing the browser history\u2026It might seem normal and harmless, but it\u2019s creating cracks in the relationship. You clearly think there\u2019s something to find, and that hurts the trust you have (or should<\/em> have)\u00a0for your partner. Not to mention, it\u2019s\u00a0really<\/em> awkward if they catch you! Keep yourself busy. Do something in another room while they\u2019re on the phone so you\u2019re not tempted to eavesdrop. Make sure you each sign out of your email accounts before leaving the computer. Over time, if you don\u2019t have chances to spy, it will slip from your mind and you\u2019ll stop feeling the urge to keep tabs on your partner.<\/p>\n Tell your partner how you feel, without making it sound like you\u2019re blaming them. Tell them about the issue from your past that makes it hard for you to trust. Tell them how you feel when they do certain things. Make sure you\u2019re presenting things as an open dialog, not as a fight. If you\u2019re open and honest about things that bother you, your partner is more likely to hear you out. If you\u2019re both on the same page, it will help you to stop being possessive. Once everything is out in the open, you can start working through it\u2014together!<\/p>\n Credit:\u00a0https:\/\/www.lifehack.org\/articles\/communication\/10-ways-stop-being-possessive-every-couple-needs-know.html<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sometimes, we allow ourselves to get carried away and begin to think the we own our partners. Hey, even puppies don’t like to be called pets. You can’t own anyone. The fact that you’re gong out or married doesn’t make you their owner. Sometimes, we get so jealous and allow it to turn us into […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6036,"featured_media":46297,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[30877],"class_list":["post-46285","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle","tag-relationship-goals"],"yoast_head":"\n2. Don\u2019t be overbearing.<\/h2>\n
3. Live your own life.<\/h2>\n
4. Don\u2019t let the green-eyed monster eat you alive.<\/h2>\n
5. Know each other\u2019s friends.<\/h2>\n
6. Don\u2019t try to change your partner.<\/h2>\n
7. Try to find the root of the problem.<\/h2>\n
8. Trust your partner (and yourself).<\/h2>\n
9. Don\u2019t spy.<\/h2>\n
10. Be open about your issues.<\/h2>\n