Actress Njambi Questions the Hype Around Marriage: “What’s the Big Deal?”

Actress Njambi, popularly known from The Real Househelps of Kawangware, has sparked a candid conversation online after raising questions about the glorification of marriage—especially by those who fast and pray for it.

Taking to her Instagram stories, Njambi, who has previously opened up about surviving an abusive marriage, admitted she has never understood why marriage is so heavily idolized.

“Okay guys, don’t crucify me, don’t judge me—but there’s something I’ve always wanted to understand,” she wrote. “I hear people fasting to be married, praying for a husband or wife… I just want to know: why is marriage such a big deal?”

She went on to question the benefits that supposedly come with marriage, saying that during her short-lived union, she struggled to see any value in the experience.

“Is it just me who doesn’t get the essence of marriage? I don’t really see the advantage or goodness in it,” she said, adding that her intention was not to offend but to genuinely seek understanding.

Njambi was quick to clarify that her comments were not meant to undermine anyone’s desire to marry or the sanctity of happy unions. She emphasized that everyone has the right to choose a path that brings them happiness—whether single or married.

“If you’re in a happy union, congratulations. If you’re praying for a better marriage, I wish you the best. And if you’re like some who told me they regret getting married, I hope brighter days come your way,” she shared.

She also extended encouragement to those struggling mentally in their marriages and expressed hope for those still praying for their ideal partners.

Njambi made it clear her own disinterest in marriage is rooted in painful personal experiences. She has previously described her past marriage as toxic, revealing in 2022 that shame and fear kept her in the relationship longer than she should have stayed.

“The shame of being in an abusive relationship kept me there. But I finally found the courage to walk away—and I’m sticking to that,” she wrote then.

She has since become vocal about encouraging women to prioritize their well-being and not remain trapped in harmful relationships for the sake of appearances or societal pressure.