Edwin Chiloba dilemma: Should you come out to your family?

Image: Jackton Odhiambo with late boyfriend, Edwin Chiloba

Edwin Chiloba has highlighted a very interesting Conundrum that a lot of homosexuals living in Kenya face: Whether or not to come out to their families.

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While it was apparent to everyone who knew him and especially those who followed him on social media that he was gay, she kept the fact hidden from his family and closest friends. This has come to the fore since his brutal murder.

I guess it is true what they say about what we do in the dark coming out the light effect surely. Edwin Chiloba was apparently a respected member of his church who would lead the youth in prayer and sometimes even sounds.

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His death and the resultant explosion of his homosexual lifestyle has not only brought about confusion to his family who are at a loss as to how to explain the current situation to their own kith and kin in the village.

In order to avoid any cognitive dissonance, we have decided to hold firm to their belief that all the reports about his homosexual proclivities being propaganda. They now claim that his funeral is being hijacked by LGBTQ to push their own agendas and narratives.

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And one can’t help but sympathize with them. However, the question of whether or not Edwin Chiloba should have come out to his family. But even as we ponder these questions we have to appreciate just how complicated the situation it is.

Even in the west where homosexuals have an abundance of rights it is still a dicey topic as to whether or not one should come out of the closet to their immediate family. Forever Living a double life is clearly a problem especially once one is gone as we can observe from how his family is grappling to come to terms with the truth of his lifestyle and nature.


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