Lilian Ng’ang’a contests the idea men don’t love children

Lillian Ng’ang’a has sparked online debate after challenging the common belief that men do not love their children.

Her remarks come amid ongoing conversations about parental absence, particularly the observation that fathers are more likely to be absent than mothers.

In a post shared on her official Instagram account on March 27, 2026, Lillian acknowledged the statistics but questioned the conclusion often drawn from them, arguing that absence does not necessarily equate to a lack of love.

“Paternal absence has always been higher than maternal absence. From this, the discourse about ‘men don’t love children’ remains. Is this the truth?” she posed.

Through her comments, Lillian called for a more balanced perspective on fatherhood—one that recognises both the challenges men face and the role they play in their children’s lives.

On parenting after separation
In a previous interview, the former Machakos First Lady also addressed the issue of co-parenting, urging separated or divorced parents to avoid speaking negatively about one another in front of their children.

Drawing from personal experience, she emphasised the importance of shielding children from emotional harm during and after a breakup.

“Your child will grow up. And when they do, they begin to understand their parents better,” she said.

She advised parents against labelling or criticising each other, encouraging them instead to allow children to form their own understanding over time.

Lillian further noted that children are highly perceptive and often pick up on tension or unresolved emotions between parents, even when nothing is said directly.

Encouraging healing and emotional growth, she urged parents to let go of resentment and move forward, reminding them that the end of a relationship does not mark the end of life.

“If you are in a state of mourning your relationship, the kids are going to see the energy… just move on. Life has happened,” she added.