Pastor Kanyari Adviced To Stop Chasing Custody Of His Kids

The ongoing domestic drama surrounding controversial megachurch leader Pastor Victor Kanyari and his estranged children with veteran gospel musician Betty Bayo has taken a surprising twist. Kanyari’s own brother, Pastor Jackson Mwangi, has publicly waded into the family dynamic, openly critiquing the preacher’s lavish methods of winning back his children’s affection.

Addressing his congregation during a mid-week sermon, Pastor Jackson, who has previously hinted at political ambitions as a potential Kasarani Constituency parliamentary aspirant, urged his brother to exercise patience rather than trying to force a reconciliation. His remarks were a direct response to Kanyari’s recent headline-grabbing declaration that he had purchased a staggering Sh90 million luxury mansion dedicated entirely to his children, Sky Victor and Danny, in an explicit bid to bring them back into his life.

“I saw a pastor called Pastor Kanyari buying his children a KSh 90 million house, telling them, ‘Come back to me, I love you.’ I can’t do that,” Pastor Jackson told his congregants. “If my children leave, I’ll look for them once, and after that, I’ll let it go.”

Expanding on his philosophy regarding broken relationships and family separation, the preacher maintained that begging for love or validation undermines a man’s dignity. He noted that he would apply the exact same hands-off policy even if his own spouse decided to walk away from their marriage.

“Even if my wife decided one day to tell me, ‘Pastor, I don’t want you anymore. I’ve chosen another man,’ I wouldn’t keep chasing after her. I’d look for her once, maybe twice, and if she still refused, that’s okay,” he stated pragmatically.

According to Pastor Jackson, the most effective strategy for an estranged father is not buying exorbitant gifts out of desperation, but focusing entirely on personal success and financial stability. He argued that if a father remains successful and capable of providing a solid foundation, children will naturally recognize those efforts on their own terms as they grow older.

The public sibling critique has ignited a fresh wave of debate across contemporary entertainment and religious circles in Kenya. While some netizens have praised Pastor Jackson for promoting emotional boundaries and self-respect, others view the public lecture as a breach of family solidarity during a sensitive custody transition. As the Kanyari family continues to dominate digital headlines, the starkly different approaches between the two brothers highlight the deep complexities of navigating modern co-parenting under the relentless glare of the public eye.