Such marriages don’t last – Lydia Wanjiru takes dig at Anne Kansiime for paying her own bride price

Kenyan content creator Lydia Wanjiru has ignited online debate after claiming that marriages where women pay their own dowry are unlikely to last.

Her remarks came in response to comments by Ugandan comedian Kansime, who recently revealed that she paid her own dowry—an admission that quickly drew mixed reactions across social media.

Wanjiru Questions Longevity of Such Marriages

Weighing in on the discussion, Wanjiru argued that unions where women take on the responsibility of paying dowry often face challenges, suggesting they may not be sustainable in the long run.

She went further to share experiences sent to her by followers, many of whom claimed to have witnessed or been part of such relationships that ended shortly after marriage.

Stories from Followers

According to Wanjiru, several accounts pointed to marriages that lasted only a few weeks or months before breaking down. These anecdotes were used to support her view that the reversal of traditional roles in dowry payment could affect relationship dynamics.

Mixed Reactions Online

Her comments have since triggered a wider conversation online, with opinions sharply divided.

Some users agreed with her stance, citing cultural expectations and traditional norms around dowry as key to maintaining balance in marriage. Others, however, pushed back, arguing that the success of a relationship depends on mutual respect and compatibility rather than who pays dowry.

Broader Cultural Debate

The discussion has also reignited conversations about evolving cultural practices in modern relationships, particularly as more couples challenge long-standing traditions.

While dowry remains a significant aspect of many African marriages, shifting societal norms continue to reshape how such customs are interpreted and applied today.