Relationship – Ghafla!

Man Allegedly Ends Five Year Old Relationship because he has Never seen his Girl Angry

Posted on January 3, 2019 by Omaku Josephine

When it comes to matters of relationships, many people often say that people seldom know what they want.

For some people, the knowledge of what they want and what they don’t want often lead them to take decisions that some might judge irrational.

This may seem the case of this person, who is said to have ended his relationship with his lover.

What do you think about the man’s decision?

According to a tweet by @bekakaima, an unidentified man ended his five year old relationship with his man because he has never seen his girl angry. Even when he tries to get her angry, she never gets angry, the tweep says.

He however ended the relationship because he thinks she is pretending. He true colour will show after marriage, he allegedly says.

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How to Impress a Girl in One Minute

Posted on December 4, 2018 by Deborah

The cat and mouse game has had all of us running around throughout the day. Chasing one another, hunting and getting hunted. Here are tips on how to Hook up with a girl in one hour, but first, you need to know what type of place you are in, and the type of girl you are dealing with, otherwise, it just won’t work.

At School

Mind your business. Girls in school are attracted to men who are not attracted to them. Keep focused, stay cool, and friendly, but don’ push too hard. Give her the little gazes as you pass buy, as you talk to the person close to her, but don’t approach her straight up. This will surely work, but only if you are her type.

At Church

By Church we mean after the service. Never attempt to get a girl during prayers, even is she is God sent. The way to get a girl in a minute is if you sing. Get a solo one day, and sing praises to God, through her heart. If you can’t sing, then use any other talents you have. Girls love popular guys.

Take her out for a nice treat. Spice Diana enjoying a nice meal

At Work

Working ladies are very hard to get. They definitely have their days all planned out. The only time she has is after work, and you have to make use of that. These women are usually willing to foot the bills anywhere, but never let her do. She is always looking out for a challenges. Someone who is more than what she can become.

At A Club

Show up with a group of friends, and buy the drinks. Don’t show that you are close to any girl at the party though. Keep it open, giggle with all, move around asking if everyone is okay, and don’t smoke. Have your friends say your name more than often, and always run to you in case of anything. Don’t forget the accidental eye contact with her.

5 Types of Men You Should Think Twice Before You Marry

Posted on September 10, 2018 by Deborah

Are you single and searching? Hunting for the one that moves your heart? Here are five types of guys you should not marry.

The Gold Digger

The men now days have changed their strategy of survival. Most of them hunt for women who are self sustainable, dependent and most importantly rich. If your boyfriend, or current bubu is showing you signs that all he wants is you money, Honey, run for your life. He will always be reluctant to contribute to anything in the household, and make statements like, “I dint do this… because I knew you would.” He will ask you for sums of money, that he spends but never pays.

The Cry Baby

Most men preach superiority, and they ought to show it. If the young man you are planning to introduce to your parents is still a baby, then you ought to stop and think. Does he cry a lot to you over small things? I he still dressing up like a young boy, and does he still find going out, and drinking cool? A man has got to be a man!

The Rich But Selfish

Sometimes for us women, it is all about the money. We however have to think about whether we are willing to marry a rich man who keeps track of your every spending. The type of man who asks you for change, and monitors every thing you buy. He can only give you the money when you present valid reason. Ladies, you are past giving accountability.

The Clean Freak

We all love a clean man, but men are not supposed to be excessively clean. Leave that to the women. Do not marry a man who will not let you sleep one day without taking a bath. A man who will quarrel every time he steps on a toy. He will enter the kitchen, and monitor every activity until the food is serves. There are some things that are not allowed.

Opinion less man

As a man, there are some things that women expect you to do. One of them is taking a decision independently. A man who overly relies on the advice of his friends, family, and parents, is not one that will stand alone. He may always require you to help him make decisions.

But like they say, everyone has their own Romeo. He may have any of the above, but be your type, and you will live happily ever after.

10 Surefire Signs That Your Ex (Secretly) Wants You Back

Posted on June 29, 2018 by Peace Agyare

Are you confused because your ex keeps sending you mixed messages?

He calls, and then disappears.

He says he is over you, but keeps in touch with your family.

And that makes getting over him and mending your broken heart a million times harder.

Inside you feel that there’s something going on:

Maybe your ex wants you back? Could it be that you can get back together?

How can you know?

On the other hand, you don’t want to fool yourself that your ex wants you back.

False hopes can leave you broken-hearted for the second time – from the same guy. It won’t be pretty.

How to Know if Your Ex Wants You Back?

To help you figure out, see these 10 signs that you ex wants you back, divided into 2 possible situations:

1. If you still keep in touch (The “just friends” horrific zone)

2. If you are in a “no contact” situation.

1. Your ex contacts you frequently, without any encouragement by you. He either calls you, texts you (more than once a week though), or sends you private messages on Facebook.

2. Your ex keeps sharing his life with you. He talks (or writes) a lot about himself and about new things that happen in his life.

3. Your ex is interested in what you are doing, who you are seeing and if you are dating someone else. He seems jealous if you do.

4. Your ex makes sure that you know that you are the first person he tells all the significant stuff in his life.

5. Your ex keeps mentioning that he is not dating anyone else, or that he is not interested in meeting someone new.

6. Your ex asks for your advice (and approval) before he makes any major decision.

7. Your ex seems to show up everywhere you go. Even when not everywhere, but in many places.

8. Your ex flatters you, tells you how good-looking you are and calls you “baby” “honey” etc.

9. Your ex seems to put a lot of effort in his looks when he meets you. He looks hot every time you see him.

10. Your ex touches you. He tends to put his arms around you and look for other opportunities for a physical contact with you.

2. If You’re in a No-Contact Situation

1. Your ex keeps in touch with your friends and/or your family – frequently.

2. When your ex meets someone who knows you, he asks a million questions about you, and if you are seeing anyone new.

3. Your ex “accidentally” shows up in places he knows he’ll meet you. And I mean more than once.

4. Your ex’s friends “happen to mention” that he or she is not dating anyone new.

5. Your ex likes or comments on your Facebook status updates.

6. Your ex shows signs of missing you through gloomy Facebook status updates, like “my life feels so empty”, or “I’m so tired of this world”.

7. You bump into your ex one day and he seems to know everything about your life (after the breakup): What you’re doing, who you’re seeing etc.

8. Your ex drunk-dials, texts or emails you. The alcohol has given him the courage to show you that you are still on his mind.

9. Your ex doesn’t want to return some of your stuff.

10. Your ex is upset and mad if you are the one that doesn’t want to stay in contact.

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10 Signs Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You

Posted on June 6, 2018 by Peace Agyare

Remember when you were young and you thought love was this invincible, bulletproof force that was immune to outside influence, impervious to evil and capable of overcoming all obstacles? And, then you found out your girlfriend was sleeping with your best friend since a week after you met, and that bubble was ruptured, never to be restored again.

Sorry. Maybe we got a little personal on that one. Maybe, you’re one of the lucky few who remains a fool for love, and the wool has yet to wear away before your eyes. We hate to single-handedly destroy your remaining naivete, but women do cheat. Thankfully, more often than not, these kind of things don’t often happen without some sort of warning. Or in some cases, many.

Here are intimations of infidelity that should tentatively raise flags:

1. She isn’t making plans for the future

If you look in your iPhone’s calendar, are the upcoming months looking unusually devoid of commitments? None of her 200 cousins has a wedding planned, you’ve yet to confirm any plans for your accrued vacation days, and hell, you haven’t even heard about one of those double dates with her best friend she usually forces you to pencil in each month.

It’s possible she’s overwhelmed at work or otherwise preoccupied; it’s also possible she’s plotting an escape and is hesitant to extend any invitations knowing she’ll eventually have to rescind them. Or, even worse, she’s too invested in someone new to realize she’s been neglecting your shared social schedule.

2. She pays more attention to her phone than you

If you inevitably spend every dinner glaring at her as she pivots between various social networks and replies to every text message that springs up, don’t be too quick to write her behavior off as a sign of the times.

Sure, we’re all guilty of being so overly engrossed in our digital lives that we neglect the present moment. But if she makes a continual habit of talking to her Twitter followers more than you during dinner dates, it may point to her lack of investment in the relationship, not just her fleeting attention span. We don’t want to say she might be spending your night together making plans with someone else, but stranger things have happened.

3. She accumulating new clothes at higher rates than usual

If your girl goes into makeover mode and tears through the mall like Sonic the Hedgehog on a mission, you should take notice. Most women have an affinity for retail, but if her shopping takes on a rabid focus seemingly out of nowhere, you should ask yourself why she has become invested in reinventing herself.

Again, it’s about a departure from the norm. If your girl normally puts on a full face of make-up to run errands, don’t think twice about her putting on mascara to go to the dry-cleaners. But if she’s a sweats-and-Chapstick type of chick, and she suddenly starts taking an hour to get ready to go out (particularly, without you), you have a reason to worry.

4. She’s less interested in sex

Every couple has sex routines. Maybe three times a week is your norm; maybe you get it in every night. But if your norm inexplicably changes, and you find you’re battling a new excuse every night, you may want to investigate what lies at the root of the issue. Is she really too tired (every damn night)? Has your sex life just gotten that boring? Or, is she simply disinterested in humping you…because she’s getting it elsewhere?

We’re not saying you should draw wild conclusions from a single “not tonight,” but be aware of what normal looks like so you know when your sex schedule diverges from it, and take the time to discuss what the real issue is.

5. She’s overly concerned with your whereabouts

Remember when you first met and every day was peppered with a constant exchange of flirty, borderline-salacious text messages? It’s normal for your text game to fall off from that initial honeymoon phase, but if she takes hours to respond without explanation, and can’t muster up an ounce of enthusiasm when she does, it’s not a good look for your relationship.

There’s a real possibility she’s under stress at work, or just in an emotional rut. But if you’re able to rule that out (which you can do with a few simple questions) and you notice she rarely takes the initiative to text—and if she does, it’s to ask where you are—she might be tracking your whereabouts for less than innocent reasons. We hate to be the ones to say it, but she’s not suddenly interested in the minutiae of your day—she’s covering her ass.

6. She falls off the radar for large gaps of time

So, she disappeared for five hours for the third time in a week and blamed it on falling asleep, and you actually believed her? That’s cute. We guess what they say is true—love is actually blind.

We hate to be the ones to pry those stubborn eyelids open, but if your girl goes M.I.A. for days at a time, you need to stop making excuses and start getting answers.

7. She makes a point to say she’s unhappy

It’s easy to misinterpret any of the aforementioned signals as infidelity when in actuality, there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. But, if you start noticing that the signs are slowly piling up, and she’s recently admitted she’s no longer happy in the relationship, you might be on the verge of a full-fledged confession.

Guilt is a tricky emotion, and she might feel that by fessing up to her flailing satisfaction in the relationship, she is offering you (and herself) an explanation for her selfish actions. Or, she could be gearing up to act on a long-held impulse, and making her excuses in advances so she can later utter, “I told you so,” with aplomb.

8. She flirts with other people in front of you

This points to larger issues of being attention-starved, having an insatiable ego, and otherwise being insecure. But more notably, if she’s comfortable batting her eyes at other people in front of you, what is she doing when you’re not there?

9. Her social calendar is suddenly bursting at the seams

Saturdays used to be your day. Nothing was said, no plans were made; it was just assumed that you’d be spending time together. But lately, it seems something more important to her comes up each week. Your weekly dates are no longer set in stone, and everything and everyone else takes precedent.

If you see your quality time slowly dwindling away, it absolutely points to her waning interest in the relationship, and it could mean she has transferred her affections elsewhere, or is at least entertaining the thought.

Independence is healthy, but a new-found focus on partying with her friends could mean she’s putting herself out there again and is seriously considering pulling the plug on your love

10. She starts pointing fingers in your direction

If your previously secure girlfriend suddenly goes into paranoia mode, you should take notice. If she snaps at you over seemingly innocent actions (basically, anything on this list, but in small, completely commonplace increments), she might be trying to throw you off her scent. By focusing your attention to your perceived failings, you’ll be less apt to interrogate her about her actual foul play, which is just the way she’d like it.

Source: https://www.complex.com/pop-culture/10-signs-your-girlfriend-is-cheating-on-you/

Ghafla Asks: Who Takes Care of the Bills on a Date?

Posted on January 16, 2018 by Omaku Josephine

Is there a set rule to this regards?

In recent times, there have been debates as to the question; who pays the bill on a date?

While some opine that the male should man up to take care of the bills, others feel there is nothing wrong with the woman paying the bill.

There have been cases where ladies are left in deep disappointment because their men refused to pay the bills on a date.

This, most times lead to the crash of relationships as ladies are quick to conclude that it is the duty of the man to pay the bills.

Some of these ladies sometimes go as far as eating and making orders on impulse trusting that their men has got it covered.

Sometimes, even though the man is totally capable of handling the bills, he lays back to see how rational/reliable his partner could be. It is sad however as most ladies fail to step up to take chare of the situation where the man isn’t ‘capable’.

In fact, most ladies are left disgusted when the man fails to clear the bills; this is a red light for so many.

Even though ladies are prone to say that they are capable of doing it on their own, they often demand a man who can take care of them without them asking.

There are some class of men who considers a lady paying on a date, a slap on his face. These class of men see such women as the type that would want to rub shoulders with him in future.

Who should pay?

When it’s all said, let’s ask ourselves, is it a crime for a man to want a lady whom he can rely on?

Then again, is there a rule that the lady should always rely on her man hence a man must take care of the bills for all dates.

Should a woman pay on a date or should each take care of their own bills (split the bills) or should the one who initiates the date take care o the bills?

What are your thoughts guys; who takes responsibility of the bills on a date?

5 Vital Signs To Know If It’s Love Or Lust

Posted on January 9, 2018 by Peace Agyare

Love is an intense feeling of affection toward another person. It’s a profound and caring attraction that forms emotional attachment. On the flip side, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature that is based on physical attraction. Lust can transform into deep romantic love, but it usually takes time.

Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy–it often dissipates when the “real person” surfaces. It’s the stage of wearing rose colored glasses when he or she “can do no wrong.” Being in love doesn’t exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love.

Whether you’re in a relationship already or admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings for someone can be a real challenge. While there’s no clear, foolproof way to make the distinction for someone else, you can at least make the distinction clearer for yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to rip your partner’s clothes off on a whim (it can definitely make for a hot relationship), but whether or not there’s a deeper love will determine the commitment level. Knowing the difference between love and lust will help you better understand just how romantically involved you envision being with your partner for the long term. And, what’s more, it’ll give you a good idea of just how to feel towards your partner, regarding his or her flaws and how they effect you.

There are no hard and fast rules, but there are a few ways you can tell the difference between love and lust.

Signs to know if it’s Love Or Lust

1.Is he/she the first in your mind or an option

If he’s the first person you think of when you find yourself with an extra ticket to an awesome sold out concert, it’s love. If you’d rather just stop by after the show when you’re sweaty, full of adrenaline, and want a quickie, it’s lust.

2.What Are Your Thoughts Of Him?

If you can genuinely see him as the father of your future children and you choose your favorite names based on what goes well with his last name, it’s love. If the thought of having his baby makes you chuckle and shake your head before you swallow your birth control pill, it’s lust.

3.Love To Be In Public Places Or Not

If you’re seen in public with him on a regular basis and it’s obvious you two are more than friends, it’s love. If you prefer to spend the majority of your time with him in bed, it’s lust.

4.Argument time

If you try to avoid fighting whenever possible and talk about your issues openly and rationally, it’s love. If you don’t mind having huge screaming matches because, well, make up sex, it’s lust.

5. Rate Your Sexual Life

If cuddling after sex is half the fun, it’s love. If you have a get in and get out type of arrangement, it’s lust.

Five Healthy Tips to Flourish your Relationship this New Year

Posted on January 8, 2018 by Omaku Josephine

Invest in a healthy relationship and be better for it.

Love can be regarded as one of the greatest possessions of man and healthy relationships are tool with which love is expressed. Certainly, nothing feels better than being loved right. Whether it is the love that comes from family or that which exists between friends, love, when done right can make a day feel like a minute.

When love goes south, it is often one of the most dangerous things on earth as nothing hurts more than a heart that bleeds from loving wrongly.

It however take two imperfect hearts that are willing to make love perfect. Even though there are no manuals for relationships, these are healthy tips to flourish your love life.

Don’t Nag!

If it takes two people to be in a e not relationship, one must always be ready to take a hard pill for the other. No one is perfect, you are not perfect, don’t expect your partner to be perfect either. It could be difficult at times to quietly talk things through when ye hurt of pained but it is obviously the right thing to do. Don’t nag, no one loves to be nagged at. be patient, be ‘reasonable’, understand your partner and settle amicably. Nagging always succeeds at one thing; Migraine! Sure no one loves it.

Be Open, Don’t Keep Secrets.

This kills a relationship faster. Your partner shouldn’t have to find things out on their own.It could feel difficult to talk about somethings to your partner as it is always easy to assume that he/she won’t understand but trust me, if you don’t ask, the answer is always no. Talk about the most deepest of secrets to each other and together you would live above the most difficult times.

Don’t be Nosy

As much as it is okay to share secrets, it is often very bad and disastrous to be nosy in relationships. This one comes with trust.If your partner is keeping it from you, trust that he/she has good reasons. It often hurt so much to find things out without being told. Not only does this affect you, it affects your partner too and may raise the first red flag of the relationship. Don’t go through your partner’s phone without permission, with time, trust will be earned, love cemented and the phone will be as good as yours, just be calm and build your relationship. Instead of being an FBI agent, be a lover and earn that trust, if there is trust, there would be no secrets.

Play!!!

Yes! You read right, play! there is no better bonding times in relationships than playtime. Play like kids, do naughty things together. These are the memories you carry along when you are not together. Imagine thinking about the fun times you had with your lover and not being able to stop smiling in pubic. That is how strong those times can be. bring back the fun times, don’t be too uptight, be friends, play and be happy.

Enjoy, not Endure

A relationship is to be enjoyed by both parties. Make every moment of your love life count. No matter where you are, far or near, make sure you are enjoying your relationship. The moment you feel you are beginning to endure a relationship, think again. Retrace your steps, go back to the drawing board and make sure you enjoy yourself. This doesn’t mean there are no bad times, in love, those bad times are born out of utmost affection for the erring partner not out of a sense of endurance. Don’t forget that the goal of every relationship is to journey to forever, how long can your endurance-bank last?

Remember, there is no manual to a happy relationship but a spontaneous life with an imperfect partner makes everything perfect.

Six Signs That Tell Your Best Guy Friend Is In Love With You

Posted on November 9, 2017 by Peace Agyare

It is extremely common to have a best friend of the opposite sex, no matter your age. There might come a time in your friendship when you start to wonder whether your best friend wants to be more than friends. If this happens, be on the lookout for signs that can help you determine whether they’re becoming romantically interested in you, or if your relationship will stay as friends.

The best way to tell if your ‘buddy’ has fallen for you is by paying close attention to his behaviours. How do you know if your best friend likes you as just a friend or … worse, that he’s fallen for you?

Watch out for these 6 signs:

1)Shows Signs Extreme Of Jealousy

Has your best friend’s behavior suddenly changed to extreme jealousy to the point that he gets very jealous when he sees you talking to someone else from the opposite sex happily and even tries his best sometimes to divert your attention back to him? Then you may have to be on the lookout for love.

2)He Gets Angry Whenever You Talk About Your Boyfriend

A platonic friend will pay attention to anything you have to say about your boyfriend. He may even ask you how he’s doing and if you’ve heard from him within the day but when your best friend begins to avoid hearing you talk about your boyfriend, becomes angry or uneasy when you talk about your special someone, then lookout. You might just be dealing with someone in love with you.

3) Suddenly Begins To Avoid Ever Meeting Your Boyfriend

Your buddy suddenly doesn’t want to come into contact with your ‘boo’, without any misunderstanding or proper excuse, and begins to turn down any kind of invitation from you that includes ‘boo’ but will want to go out or spend more time with you alone. He wants you all to himself.

4)He Is Constantly Checking Up On You

All of your friends are interested in your life and want to hear about the big and happy moments, but not all of them keep a running calendar of everything you’re doing every day. When your best friend does, he’d actually prefer to be your boyfriend. He not only remembers the day that you were presenting but wishes you luck and then also checks in afterward. Being this highly invested in someone else’s life means that you have to be thinking about them a lot, and he clearly is. He wants to prove to you that he cares about you even more than your boyfriend.

5)His Girlfriend Hates You

When you have a truly platonic guy friend, you might even be friends with his girlfriend. Or she might tolerate the friendship but keep a pretty close eye on it. But she doesn’t hate you. She hates you when she can tell that his feelings for you are not merely platonic ones. Your feelings might be platonic, but women are extremely good at picking up on those sort of vibes (as you probably know.) It might be the amount of time he spends with you or talks to you on the phone. When your buddy’s babe begins to show you attitude, then you’ve got to watch out.

6)He’s Never Ignored liking And Commenting On Your Posts

He’s always the first to like and comment on anything you post on social media. Even when no one likes something you post on social media, he will do so and even add an encouraging statement. ALL the time.

DJ Cuppy Ends Relationship with Victor Anichebe

Posted on October 5, 2017 by Omaku Josephine

Celebrity DJ and daughter of Nigerian Billionaire, Femi Otedola ends relationship with Nigerian footballer, Victor Anichebe.

DJ Cuppy yesterday, announced the end of her relationship with Victor Anichebe which started as a rumour last year before she finally confirmed it in an interview.

She took took to snapchat to post the picture of the footballer leaving her house with bags with captions that suggested that they had broken up.

”My ex came to drop off my stuff, I’m harrassing him.. we’re cool tho

”When you’re cool with your ex”.

The DJ confirmed her relationship with the footballer last year when she appeared as a guest on Rubbing Minds with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu where she talked openly for the first time. She had posted a picture of herself kissing a man whose face she hid with an emoji.

Victor Anichebe and DJ Cuppy — DJ Cuppy and Victor Anichebe. Source: Instablognaija

During the interview, she spoke on how she met the footballer, she said, ”I was in New York at that time and she said I think you guys should just go for a coffee. I happened to be in London and he happened to be in London and we went for coffee and the rest is history.”

In October, last year, Victor Anichebe gifted DJ Cuppy a G-Wagon as a birthday gift which certainly came as a surprise to the DJ.

”I am a Single Man and for all you Care, I can Hang out with Hundred Women If I want”- Olakunle Churchill

Posted on September 20, 2017 by Omaku Josephine

In a recent interview, Tonto Dikeh’s ex husband lashed out at those spreading unconfirmed reports of him being in a love triangle between actress, Rosaline Meurer and Reality TV Star, TBoss.

Mr. Churchill obviously got upset when asked asked about the rumors making rounds. He said, ”Listen to me, I am a very busy man and I don’t have time for social media banter and gists. I don’t know where these stories come from, it’s been lingering for a long time, any lady that works with me automatically goes online as someone I’m dating and it’s no longer funny. I don’t know where these stories emerge from but they are not true. At the moment, I am a single man and for all you care I can hang out with hundred women if I want, it’s no one’s business… Let me just shut this down once and for all; Rose is family to me, I’ve known her since childhood before she started working with the foundation and for the last time, she didn’t break my home.She’s and actress not my personal assistance as many people believe and in the real sense, a company cannot have an actress as a P.A. Anything you read online that doesn’t come from me is not true, there’s so many fake News sponsored against me by jobless people. My marriage crashed because of personal issues that we could resolve and I tried to fix it several times because of my son but it didn’t work out. As for TBoss, she was present as many other celebrities at the fire service event we did last month in Abuja so how does this translate to my dating any of them? I don’t think I owe any one any explanation, when and if I am ready to get married again, my family will know not the media. I will choose to keep my life private like it used to be”.

As for the reported domestic violence allegations against him, Churchill said they were not true as he was out of the country when his ex wife (Tonto Dikeh) moved out of his house with his son and all her things without his consent. He added that he has never raised his hand again a woman an never will as only weak men do that. ”…I’ve been trying to see my son but I’ve been taking it slow because I don’t want any false claims” he said.