Betty Bayo’s BFF Shiro Stuart raises alarm over whether her marraige to Tash was toxic

Betty Bayo’s close friend, Shiro Stuart, has sparked intense public debate after posting a cautionary message about staying in toxic marriages — a message shared just as the late singer’s family began raising concerns about what Betty may have silently endured before her death.

Her post came amid emotional revelations from Betty’s brother, who said the family only learned how serious her condition was in her final moments. Betty died on November 10, and her brother has since urged her ex-husband, Pastor Victor Kanyari, to take full responsibility for their children and remove them from the care of her widower, Hiram “Tash” Gitau.

Shiro’s Warning — and the Reactions It Sparked

Stuart, who travelled from the UK with her children to attend the burial, shared a stylish photo holding a Fendi bag — but it was her caption that set off a wave of speculation.

She wrote:

“A narcissist won’t end a marriage because they fear being seen as the villain, even when their behaviour is unbearable.
The longer they stay, the more they drain you. They act like saints around your friends so you appear to be the problem.
Eventually, you either walk away or the stress destroys you.
Also examine yourself — make sure you’re not the narcissist.
Do not stay in a toxic marriage to impress anyone.”

The post quickly ignited online reactions, with many trying to decode who she might have been addressing.

Some responses included:

• @Njeri: “I refuse to believe she’s referring to Kanyari.”

• @Kendi: “I think the marriage wasn’t good, but she couldn’t leave because society would judge her — especially since it was her second one.”

• @Mama Wayne: “Why talk in riddles? We people from Murang’a understand exactly what you mean.”

• @John De Baptist: “Kanyari is innocent here. Don’t blame him without reason.”

• @Njeri: “How long will this narrative be used to attack Tash?”

• @Muthoni: “I’m glad I left. It’s been five months, but they still took my child.”

• @EMB: “We continue to stand with Betty, even in her absence.”

Betty’s 2023 Clarification on Her Marital History

In June 2023, Betty surprised many by clarifying that she had never been divorced nor married twice — despite long-standing public belief that she and Pastor Kanyari had been officially married.

During a recording of the gospel reality show Oh Sister, she told her castmates:

“I’m not a divorcee; I was never married twice.
I am married now to a wonderful man, but people only associate me with my ex.
In life, what you don’t use gets thrown away.
Only someone not in their right mind returns to the trash.”

She added that after her traditional ceremony, she and her husband were preparing for a white wedding.

Her remarks drew apologies from Size 8, Kabi Wajesus, and Shlaver, who admitted they had made false assumptions about her past.

Betty previously dated Pastor Kanyari, with whom she shared three children.

Betty’s Reflections on Her Relationship With Kanyari

In 2019, the Public Opinion singer openly acknowledged that she rushed into a relationship without truly understanding her partner.

“My mistake was entering a marriage without really knowing my partner.
I didn’t take time to understand his background, character, or personality.
We disagreed on nearly everything — every conversation became an argument.”

The 2015 Exposé and Their Separation

Betty parted ways with Kanyari in 2015 after a Jicho Pevu exposé accused him of running a fraudulent ministry that misled church members — a scandal that ultimately led to their split.