‘Deal With Them In The Capacity Of An Ex’- Comedian YY’s Strict Co-Parenting Rules

Comedian and media personality YY recently offered a candid look into his co-parenting dynamic with his ex-partner, content creator Marya Okoth, emphasizing the critical importance of establishing and maintaining strict, respectful boundaries after a separation.

Speaking with podcaster Alex Mwakideu, YY outlined his firm philosophy: once a romantic relationship ends, the former partner must strictly be dealt with in the “capacity of an ex,” meaning all former relationship privileges must be revoked.

Maintaining Healthy Distance and Depriving Privileges

YY, whose separation from Marya Okoth—the mother of his child—occurred in September 2024, insisted that this adherence to boundaries is key to successful co-parenting. When asked specifically if ex-partners should be allowed inside each other’s houses for child exchanges, YY was definitive.

“I don’t know, but it’s not right, even for me… It’s not right at all. When someone is your ex, you deal with them in the capacity of an ex, meaning you deprive them of privileges they previously had and they deprive you of privileges that you had before,” he stated.

He stressed that after a breakup, an ex becomes like “somebody else,” though they are treated with more respect because of the child they share.

The Child’s Well-being is Paramount

YY’s co-parenting philosophy is centered entirely on the child’s welfare. He explained that separating partners must “really bow down to the child,” meaning they must prioritize the child’s environment above their own feelings.

• Conflict Avoidance: YY avoids arguments with his child’s mother because he understands disagreements create “very bad energy around yourselves.” He chooses to remain silent if he disagrees with a point she raises.
• Positive Communication: He prioritizes speaking positively about the mother to the child, recognizing that any action he takes to “punish that woman, it indeed punishes the child.”

The comedian maintains his full parental responsibilities, covering school fees and medical expenses. He takes on parental duties every weekend, picking the child up from school on Friday and dropping her back on Monday, unless his ex-partner has separate plans.

Plans for Expansion

Looking ahead, YY confirmed he plans to expand his family, aiming for “One or two more” children within a serious, stable relationship.

He concluded by reiterating his profound respect for his ex-partner because she gave birth to his child, which is why he avoids discussing the intimate details of their relationship in any interview. His focus remains on ensuring the child is the “only kid that should win eventually” in the co-parenting arrangement.