Prominent businesswoman and public figure Sarah Mtalii has released a powerful, unfiltered message directed at women navigating the complexities of toxic and unfaithful marriages. In a deeply personal video shared on her Instagram account on Monday, February 23, 2026, the entrepreneur urged women to reclaim their identities through self-love and decisive action.
Drawing from her own life experiences, having recently navigated a high-profile divorce from her former husband, Simon Kabu, Sarah offered both sympathy and a “tough love” wake-up call to those feeling trapped.
Guarding Your Peace in the Face of Infidelity
Sarah addressed the emotional turmoil that follows the discovery of a partner’s decision to bring a third party into the marriage. She argued that a spouse’s choice to be unfaithful is their decision alone and should not become a burden that leads to the other partner’s mental breakdown.
“This is somebody else’s decision,” Sarah explained. “As long as they have not come to your space, as long as you aren’t being subjected to violence, you must do better than sinking into depression or self-destruction.”
She emphasized that if the situation is not physically abusive, a woman’s primary responsibility shifts to guarding her internal peace and protecting her children from the fallout.
The “Oga, Rudi Soko” Doctrine
For women who find the concept of sharing a partner fundamentally unacceptable, Sarah was blunt: it is time to leave. She encouraged women to make firm decisions rather than suffering in a state of emotional stagnation.
“If you are not the type to share, then wash up and head back to the ‘market’ (oga, rudi soko),” she advised. “Know how you will start loving yourself, how to move on, and how you are going to show up for your children and your career.
A Warning Against Suffering in Silence
Perhaps the most emotional part of her message was her warning against “soaking in tears.” Sarah cautioned women against letting marital stress drive them toward antidepressants or, in extreme cases, the mortuary.
“We will not celebrate you if we find you in a mortuary or consumed by antidepressants because of a marriage,” she stated firmly. Her message was clear: no relationship is worth the price of one’s mental health or life.
By prioritizing personal growth and professional stability, Sarah believes women can build a vibrant life independent of a toxic partner’s choices.
