Dj Zinhle was the second guest of #RealTalkon3 with Azania Mosaka. She spoke on Motherhood,co-parenting with AKA and also her new book.
On her relationship with AKA, Zinhle said that they were in a good space.
“It took a lot of work. Parenting is a tricky thing.”
When it comes to parenting Kairo she said, “He (AKA) is strict and I bend quickly. He is a fun person but he can switch up so quickly. Sometimes when Kairo does something I say ‘I’m going to tell your dad about this’ and she says ‘Well, I’m going to tell daddy too’ but he is a really cool dad.”
A viewer asked a question about moving on and forgiveness, Zinhle recalled a time when Kairo was just two months old and she was an emotionalwreck.
“When Kairo was two months old, one day, my emotions were all over and I remember I looked at Kairo and I said ‘Kairo daddy’s gone’ and I just cried,”
“But Kairo just gave me this look that reassured me…even at that age… it’s like she was saying mommy look around you, you have a job, I’m here, you are a beautiful person, focus on the things that are going well.”
There is also a new segment in the show includes surprise moments, and Zinhle’s first surprise was AKA’s mother Lynn Forbes, congratulating Zinhle on her book “Meeting your Power”.
She said: “Hi Zee, look at you you are now officially a published author, wow! How amazing is that, congratulations!
“I’m so proud of you and very excited for you because I know you’ve been working on this and so many other projects for a long time, and it’s finally happening. I cannot wait to get my hands on a signed copy of course to read it from back to front because I’m sure it’s filled with wisdom and inspiration from which so many people would be able to draw.
“So well done once again, you are loved and adored, and you are such a special human being, all the best for this and all the other projects.”
Meeting The Power: Returning Home to Self is a women empowerment book that Zinhle co-written with leadership coach Nokubonga Mbanga. Viewers were encouraged to send their questions and the first question was about “how do you forgive someone who has wronged you”.
“Forgives starts with you…you need to forgive yourself first. And also forgive people without them asking for an apology, so that you can move on to a better space. Forgiveness is about you, your own progress, your own healing, it’s not about the next person…forgiveness is a gift to self”.
In the book the two ladies share some of their personal experiences. Zinhle opened up about her insecurities growing up, she was told she will never get married because she was lazy.
“There’s lot of things that I still can’t do like cook or clean properly. I grew up believing I will never amount to anything… no one will marry you because I called lazy, vila voco, which loosely translates to extreme laziness.
Azania asked if that was the reason she was previously quoted that she will never get married, which Zinhle said she’s too independent to get married.
“I will never get married… I’m too independent and I enjoy my space. I can’t imagine sharing my house with someone else.”I just never had the desire, or passion to get married.”
