Pastor Kanyari Warns Women Against Supporting ‘Ben 10’ Relationships

Salvation Healing Ministry founder Pastor Victor Kanyari has sparked debate after cautioning women against dating and financially supporting younger men, commonly referred to as “Ben 10s.”

Speaking during his Wednesday, July 1, 2026, midweek service, the televangelist urged women to be cautious about relationships with younger partners whom he claimed rely heavily on older women for financial support.

Kanyari criticised what he described as a growing trend where some women pay their younger partners’ rent, provide food and take responsibility for most household expenses.

“Women, please stop obsessing over these flashy men who you see wearing good clothes and mostly jeans,” he said.

The preacher also questioned why some women are attracted to younger men who change their appearance through skin bleaching, arguing that appearance should not be the main basis for choosing a partner.

“Those men who also like to bleach their skins so they can become brown and men who only you will be providing for… you women doing that, know you have a big problem,” he stated.

Concerns Over Financial Dependence

Kanyari questioned why some women willingly take on the financial burden of relationships by paying for everything.

“How can you pay for a house for a man? And you even pay for the food that will be eaten in that house?” he asked.

He further claimed that some men who are financially dependent on their partners could later become a source of problems.

“My warning is that those kinds of men are the ones who end up killing people,” he said.

Comments on Beauty Standards

The preacher also raised concerns about what he described as a preference among some women for lighter-skinned men.

“And one thing I also don’t understand: why are women always obsessed with light-skinned men? What do they have?” he questioned.

Kanyari encouraged people to embrace their natural appearance and criticised attempts to change one’s skin colour to fit certain beauty ideals.

“We are Africans. That’s why I don’t want such soft behaviours. We are black colours,” he said.

He concluded by dismissing relationships involving older women and much younger men, saying he did not see the value in such arrangements.

“So those things to do with women having Ben 10s is a waste. I don’t see why you like them,” he added.