Nairobi County Chief Officer for Customer Engagement and Citizen Service Geoffrey Mosiria has sparked discussion about modern relationships, marriage, and youth culture after sharing his views on changing social values among young people.
In a statement posted on his Instagram page on Sunday, June 7, 2026, Mosiria urged parents to take a closer look at what he described as shifting attitudes and behaviours that may be influencing relationships and marriage prospects.
“Wazazi kujeni hapa mjionee mambo! Sasa hawa ndio mnaita wife material? Wakikosa mabwana wa kuwaoa wanatuita wanaume ni maumbwa! Ni sawa tu!” he wrote.
According to Mosiria, discussions about marriage should not focus solely on young men who choose not to settle down. He argued that society should also examine certain behaviours among young people that may be affecting relationships.
“Dear parents, don’t only blame your sons for not wanting to marry. We should also have honest conversations about some of the behaviours we are seeing among young people today. Some of the conduct displayed in clubs and entertainment venues is concerning,” he stated.
The county official pointed to behaviour in nightlife spaces, suggesting that some actions reflect a decline in self-respect and could be shaping attitudes toward long-term relationships.
“There are individuals who engage in inappropriate dancing and behaviour that does not reflect self-respect or dignity. It is no surprise that many young men are becoming reluctant to settle down, while cases of broken relationships and single parenthood continue to rise,” he said.
Mosiria also weighed in on the growing popularity of the “soft life” lifestyle, arguing that it often conflicts with the commitment, discipline, and sacrifice required to sustain a marriage.
“The ‘soft life’ many people pursue is often very different from the commitment, responsibility, and sacrifice required in marriage,” he noted.
He encouraged young women to focus on character, values, and self-respect rather than seeking validation through nightlife or social media attention.
“To our sisters, remember that your character, values, and self-respect are far more important than temporary attention gained in clubs or on social media. No one will remember how you danced on tables in bars and clubs, but they will remember your integrity, discipline, and the way you carried yourself,” he said.
At the same time, Mosiria stressed that responsibility in relationships is not solely a matter for women, calling on men to uphold the same standards of respect and accountability.
“Likewise, men should also conduct themselves responsibly and respectfully. Strong families and successful marriages are built on mutual respect, good character, and shared values. I am not being harsh; I am simply saying that marriage material is defined by character, responsibility, and respect—not by popularity or nightlife,” Mosiria stated.
