Is Bashing Socialites A Reflection Of Our Own Insecurities As Women?

Socialites love them or hate them we have quite a lot to learn from them. How we treat them reflects who we are as people and I have come to realize that Kenyans in this respect are ruthless for lack of a better word. This is especially true for the women (as well as a few weak men).

As I went through the comments on social media on one Corazon Kwamboka I realized that the most negative comments came from her fellow women, they were really baying for her blood. Then I switched it up to Prezzo’s new video where they were insulting the lass, using phrases intended to be hurtful such as ‘hide your cellulite’

And as it turns out its not only the socialites who are receiving all the bile,even established musicians such as Stella Mwangi are getting a lot of hate from her fellow women. I have also been a target for the ‘women against women’ hate where some pseudo-feminists alleged that I ‘did not empower women’. My fellow writers (who are male) have on previous occasions tackled topics such as men getting batteredat home.  I am yet to hear a man go like ‘You do not support men.” Or some such other ridiculous comments. This ‘women against women’ phenomenon is not confined to the entertainment scene.In the political arena, deserving women candidates have been denied life-changing political seats by their fellow women because of women on women hate.

Lately I have been thinking about what is the true cause of this ‘women against women’ phenomenon. I hypothesize that the hatred for other women comes from within. If one hates herself, it’s easy for her to hate another woman. When a woman who hates herself looks at a glamorous female socialite or celebrity what she sees is a woman who seemingly doesn’t hate herself. It is easy for such a woman to feel intimidated and threatened causing her to project the internalized negativity (read: hate andvitriol) onto the female socialite or celebrity. Think about it. This explains the myriad times we hear comments like “Who does she think she is?” “She’s not all that anyway” “Why is she so full of herself?” and  “She is just a glorified whore!”

From my observation I have concluded that there are certain traits that tend to make a woman threatening to women who are low in self-confidence. The traits include beauty, intelligence, hard work ethic, confidence, dressed to impress, affluence and strong personality. Socialites commonly have these traits in varying combinations turning them into magnets for hatred. For the haters out there I wish you would wake up to the reality that the feelings of intimidation always stem from your own insecurity. Threat (along with the insecurity it stems from) brings out the worst in us. We tend to lash out when we let insecurity get the best of us.

So what is the moral of this story, do not hate on your fellow woman simply because she is more popular or has more influence or is successful. Do not hate, celebrate.